Another affair was with the wife of a friend. He laughed and said he hoped she was having a good time. The discretion these situations required felt very much like an affair. I do know that by the time I was in my mid-twenties I could not bear it. Almost as soon as the woman had told her husband I lost my interest in her.
When I could not find a married woman to sleep with I tried to create drama for myself by going out with women who had boyfriends or with whom I worked. You know you're middle aged when With a woman who was my peer there was always a sense of uncertainty because the fact that she valued me seemed beyond belief. I have been married now for 13 years. This relationship was strange because, as soon as we had sex, she told her husband. This is the relationship that I feel saddest about, because I hurt somebody who was important to me. Sometimes when none of these conditions prevailed, I would tell the woman I was seeing not to let anyone know we were dating. I was 18 and the fact that this was his response made me feel my youth and feel how strange the world is. Usually this is worth it. A part of me found the gradualness of all of this irritating, like sipping wine when you are used to a swig of hard liquor. He laughed and said he hoped she was having a good time. When I was sleeping with a married woman I knew absolutely that the woman was risking herself for me and so I was important. A part of me also found that these ordinary relationships made me more vulnerable. There are even good years and bad years. One was a professor of mine. The discretion these situations required felt very much like an affair. There are good days and bad days. I do know that by the time I was in my mid-twenties I could not bear it. I am not sure when I decided that the loneliness of going out with married women, the sense of being invisible that I experienced when I met their husbands and the sense of not being able to plan my schedule because I was always waiting for small windows of availability all became too much. Another affair was with the wife of a friend. The fact that it was in the open made the relationship real and so, to me, feel leaden with responsibility. Almost as soon as the woman had told her husband I lost my interest in her. I would tell her I preferred people not knowing my business, while in reality I just liked secrets.
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